Why Do Women Fall for the Bad Guy?

It’s a mystery for some men why most women prefer the bad guy rather than the nice guys. Korean drama attest to this fact.

Shining Inheritance

Boys Over Flowers

He is Beautiful

So why do women fall for the bad guy?

Here are some thoughts I borrowed from a few interesting blogs online:

"She thinks she is being ambitious, thinking and expecting too much, and that she probably doesn’t deserve a nice guy like you. Either that, or she thinks, that she is dumb and easy-to-get and that is why you are being nice to her. In fact, more often than not, she chooses to take the latter thought. She takes it as an offence that you’ve made the effort to be nice to her. You’ve hurt her ego.

Now when the bad guy treats her like shit, she is elated. This is exactly what she had been waiting for. Isn’t it actually re-assuring her faith in herself ? That “she is stupid” and “fit for nothing” and “duh !!”. And that the guy is doing her a favor by being with her. In fact she rejoices in that self image."

by Haricharan

This is a list from Jen Kim

 "Bad boys tend to have lots of positive traits that come along for the ride of the badness such as good looks, confidence, creativity, humor, charisma, high energy, and good social skills-- all things women find attractive."

I have to admit. Bad guys have more appeal than the good guys. The "angels" are too tame, that women get easily bored with a relationship with them. ( too bad, they are only looking at the superficial features of a man. I wonder if you would consider that love by any chance. Would it not be carnal pleasure only?)

THE CHALLENGE

[Bad Boys] don't really ever commit to you, therefore you're always chasing after them. The challenge! As women, we're kind of wired to think that we can change anyone, and bad boys are no exception."

“The allure of the emotionally unavailable guy is that he doesn't think the girl is worth committing to, not yet anyway, which can be construed as, "you're not good enough for me," which automatically makes the girl want to be "good enough," so this is when she starts chasing the guy, when she damn well knows that she shouldn't be.”

“You always want what you can't have.”

This is absolutely true. Some women love taming a wild horse, in belief that the tamed horse will be theirs forever. This may be true, but if you come and think about it the wild horse is not really wild. In reality, it is a tame horse that is not seen as such by others. It is just an image it portrays; thus when someone sees its true colors, it easily bows down to become its trustworthy slave.

What do you think? Will you fall for a bad guy?

Bad Guy Korean Drama